You know, and I know, that life is one wild ride of WTF moments stitched together by coffee and the occasional breakdown. But if you take a quick scroll through instagram feeds, you'd think everyone's got their shit figured out BUT YOU.
In the daily life of a woman, chaos can look like the pressure to perform at work while maintaining a household, the unpredictability of personal relationships, or the constant information thrown at you demanding your attention and action. It's in these spaces of not knowing and disorder that women find opportunities to define and redefine themselves, to create paths that were not laid out for them, and to forge identities that are fluid, dynamic, and authentic to their experiences.
The modern woman’s navigation through chaos is not just about survival but about thriving. It’s about finding strength in vulnerability, wisdom in uncertainty, and a sense of self that is strong yet adaptable.
Crazy thing is - We shove the “crazy chaos” into the closet not just because we're afraid of showing weakness, but because we've been spoon-fed this lie that to be successful, you've got to be fucking perfect.
Chaos is where magic, growth, innovation, and genuine connection are made. My passion for this topic is deeply personal because I've often been branded as a wild woman—and, truth be told, I still am. However, the label has always come with a negative connotation, as if I was something to be tamed rather than appreciated, someone to silence rather than to be celebrated.
For too long, my "wild" opinions and authenticity made me feel shame but I was only embracing the chaos within me—the very energy many around me would dismiss or overlook within themselves. CAN WE TALK ABOUT HATERS? sheesh.
In the thick of my chaos, Koketa came to life – not just as a clothing brand but as a community for all those wild-hearted women who’ve been told to tone it down. The phrases on the tees and on the panties? They're conversation starters, debate sparkers – they're meant to cause some healthy chaos—it's about wearing one's complexity and multi-dimensional existence with pride and owning the chaos that shapes us.
This is where my art breathes and thrives, in the cut and print of casual wear with Koketa, I get to ask the world to think a little deeper, laugh a little louder, and maybe – just maybe – to start a dialogue that matters!
It’s funny how that same chaos brought my tribe to me. Quality friends didn't just happen. They came into my life drawn by shared laughter, wild opinions, and the kind of talk that only gets better with time. We're a testament to the fact that from a bit of shared wildness, from the ‘too much’ and the ‘so loud’, comes a connection that's real.
Koketa isn't just my baby; it's the voice I found in the noise, the stand I took when it would've been easier to sit down. It's for all of us who’ve ever been a bit too much – too passionate, too outspoken, too alive. And wouldn't have it any other way.
I've wrestled with the need to fit into a preconceived mold to feel accepted, to be loved, especially in past relationships. Yet, within me was a storm of confusion trying to find its peace. My upbringing, my loneliness, the pitfalls of being detrimentally hyper independent - leading to panic attacks and anxiety induced naps to just FORGET and the pain of feeling misunderstood—all were external chaos that amplified my inner chaos.
For years, I despised my own "chaotic" nature, striving instead to present a facade of composure, invincibility, and organization. And yes, I am all those things—I simply didn't realize that my ‘togetherness’ could coexist with my ‘wildness’, that I could be both!
Or take for example, in Hindu mythology, Kali stands tall and fierce, a symbol not just of destruction, but of creation — of power in its most raw form. She's a goddess who doesn't just accept chaos; she dances in it. She destroys only to create anew, teaching us that within the heart of chaos lies the seed of transformation.
As modern women, we are often told to shy away from chaos — to aim for the neat, orderly, and predictable. But let's be real here. Our lives are more Kali than calm. We're not just one thing. We're a whirlwind of thoughts, emotions, ambitions, and contradictions. We're nurturing, yet strong; loving, yet fierce. And if you've ever felt like you're too much — too loud, too emotional, too ambitious — it's time to stop and ask yourself: by whose standards?
Let’s face it, we need more places where we can be unapologetically ourselves, where a coffee stain on your shirt is a funny conversation starter, not a reason to hide. So, I extend my hand to you, pulling back the velvet curtain to show you there's a whole bunch of us like you dancing in the chaos. No judgments. No need to fix up or look sharp. Just be.
Dive into these sort of conversations. Share your stories. Every little bit of chaos fits into the bigger picture of who we are and who we're becoming.
So here's a thought: Where do you see your chaos reflecting in your life? What have you been ignoring or hiding that is actually a source of your power? How can you dance in your chaos like Kali, transforming it into something fiercely beautiful?
I’m here, ready to listen, ready to support. Because that’s what it’s all about—turning up the volume on the voices that often go unheard and saying, “Hell yes” to the entirety of our collective and personal experiences.